Amy L. Miller, MSW, LCSW (she/they):
​I finished grad school* in 2005 (yes I'm that old) and have spent the last two decades doing what I do best and love most: helping people communicate honestly, navigate conflict without burning their lives down, and build relationships that actually feel good.
My professional path has been nonlinear on purpose because I have to try things out and see what works for me: I've been a nanny, project manager, school social worker, private practice clinician, relationship coach, mediator, keynote speaker, leadership consultant, and (most recently) the interim director of a Humanist congregation. (Note: I was not a good nanny, but the rest had decent success!)
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I am grateful for all of that because it taught me how people work, how systems break, and how connection gets rebuilt.
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You are likely here trying to decide whether we are a good fit to work together. I'm decidedly not right for everyone, and that's a good thing. The people I'm right for tend to know it right away. But there's plenty of info here, on my socials, in my blog, and various other locations to help you decide.
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I see individuals in therapy, and couples in relationship coaching. Group work is for everyone, and corporate work is customized for each client.
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*I have an English BA from Coe College and an MSW from The Brown School of Social Work Washington University in St Louis, if that matters to you.
Here's more info to help you decide if we're a good fit:
I work with adults in the messy middle stretch of life—people of all genders who are smart, self-aware, slightly exhausted, allergic to bullshit, and ready for change. My approach is direct, grounded, trauma-informed, and deeply human. I believe in community, in belonging, and in the healing that happens when someone finally says the honest thing out loud.
One thing about me you should know: I'm always going to say the thing. ​
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My core values are not theoretical. They shape how I practice, so please be (or plan to get) comfortable with these ideas:
âž¡Black Lives Matter.
âž¡Trans Lives Matter.
​➡Every human has intrinsic value and deserves to be safe, housed, and fed.
âž¡Gender and sexuality exist on a spectrum, and anywhere on that spectrum is perfectly "normal"
âž¡Kindness beats dogma any day.
âž¡Perfection isn't real, but sincere effort is.
âž¡Vulnerability is required for true connection.
âž¡Monogamy is not the only way to do relationship.
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I’m in my mid-40s, perimenopausal, very tattooed, and I curse freely. (You don't have to, of course, but you can't be offended by it. I'd love to say I'm working on it, but I'm really not.)
I’m in a healthy, ethically non-monogamous interracial marriage with my favorite person, and we co-parent a fierce kid who reminds me daily why emotional intelligence matters. I am certainly not the best parent in the world, but I am a present, effortful, connection + repair-focused parent and my child's secure attachment is my greatest achievement.
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If you want a therapist, coach, or consultant who is warm, sharp, relational, and unfiltered—in the best way—we’ll get along just fine. My contact info is below.