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I recently read a statistic that roughly half of all adults have insecure attachment. So we start out FROM CHILDHOOD being pre-wired for struggle in relationships in part because our parents/primary caregivers and their parents/primary caregivers (etc) were also wired for struggle and failed to sufficiently meet our needs for attunement.

I love that she knows me well enough to know what to expect from me like this, too. Sure, it makes me easily manipulated by her feelings, but I'd rather be overly attuned than oblivious to them. Zoe's secure attachment to both of us and deep sense of safety in our family makes me feel so proud. (Secondary benefit: I heal my own inner child through parenting her.)

Reminder: most people in the world are just out here doing shit without thinking too much about it or how it might affect others.

ANNUAL REMINDER: When people say they're "sarcastic" they usually THINK they're talking about being sort of snarky-funny, maybe in a dark way. But first of all, negativity isn't super funny. It's honestly an energy suck.