Are women really more emotional than men?
- amy l miller
- Dec 28, 2025
- 2 min read
I wanted to make this its own separate post because surely someone needs to read this today. The topic is whether women are actually more emotional -overall- than men. I submit that they are not. Here is my evidence:
1) Using a calm voice does not necessarily mean you're being logical, reasonable, or even that you are calm. You just aren't verbally/outwardly escalating. Someone's voice raising doesn't necessarily mean they are being dramatic or "hysterical". It is often a response to being talked over, interrupted, or a historical context of not feeling heard.
2) Not crying doesn't necessarily mean you're not experiencing emotional flooding. Crying is just feelings coming out of your eyeballs. You deciding decades ago to close those floodgates just means all the unshed tears just slosh around inside your body. Metaphorically. It does not dry them up.
3) Habitually using "I think" instead of "I feel" doesn't necessarily mean you're expressing a thought and not simply naming a feeling. Reminder that feelings are not facts, and for that matter, neither are thoughts. Thoughts and feelings both provide data points, and neither are inherently rational.
4) Being unable to identify feelings is not the same thing as not having them. And it certainly doesn't mean you're not using the nebulous unnamed feelings as part of your decision-making. Men act on wildly irrational feelings all the time and act like because they are in denial of having the feelings that that is not what's happening.
5) You not liking what someone said is not actually synonymous with someone speaking to you disrespectfully, much less with someone BEING disrespectful. Someone can upset you or say words that make you angry without it having anything to do with respect.
In summary, while gender is a social construct, it remains applicable to discussions of hetero relational dynamics. In cases where men want to claim that women are the less rational of the two, in many cases I have significant evidence to dispute the claim.
Broadly speaking, I would actually say that human beings are wildly irrational creatures and that feelings are transient and unreliable sources of information over time. But if they want to claim we are the crazy ones, Imma say nah.
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(further evidence provided by the current administration, where the most mild hurt feeling or perceived disrespect results in new tarriffs, vindictive prosecutions, character assassinations, etc. I cannot imagine Kamala Harris behaving even 1/4 as irrationally as DJT behaves daily.) PS Go argue with someone else if you disagree



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